Both/And…keeping it real

We can do hard things. Acknowledging both the good and hard in everyday life.


  • Leaves on a stream, Montana and taking deep breaths…

    (For my love). “Shhh….” My love wrapped his arms around me, my heart hammering and breath fighting to get down to my lungs. “Imagine a canoe, gliding through the water, no sound, other than the water of the river. Drops drip off the paddle, look around and just see everything with wonder….” After he’d described…

  • Perspective….

    (Disney part 4). June 21, 1996: I had barely turned 23, was enjoying life, post Hope College and still a huge Disney buff. I lived in the small ranch home I’d recently purchased that had been my grandpa’s, with a beloved roommate. She was strong, smart and a person with whom I felt known and…

  • Ink…

    Ink…

    I have a multi-faceted personality, if I can be honest with you. I am all sorts of things: introverted and love when I get to interact with my closest circle or those I find a new connection with; both anxious about the how’s, where’s and what’s that accompany my disability and very comfortable in other…

  • What we can learn from Ariel, Ursula, shipwrecks, grief and Jesus.

    (Part 1 – Disney series) Can I start very candidly? I hardly know where to start when I think about writing about Disney, Disney movies and how these come together in my day to day…and yet, that’s probably because for me, it all blends together – my interests, my work, family and Jesus (rarely in…

  • Even better than Disney?

    Even better than Disney?

    (a series on ways that for me, Disney, Jesus and therapy all fit together…) I took a deep, and I do mean, DEEP breath…the kind that I can feel all the way through my torso. The kind…that would make Mr. B, my choir teacher, so very proud. The plane was landing, I peered out the small…

  • What is it that really moves you?

    For a recent movie night with my husband and kids, I chose E.T. My kids, somehow, had NEVER seen this classic all the way through. I am still a bit shocked by that fact, even though we have certainly remedied that error. But as I sat watching this movie that was fairly formative for me,…

  • Longing for bravery in the new year and a few lessons we can learn from Elsa…

    The heaviness he shared felt nothing short of oppressive…a 100 pound weight blanket that paralyzed in every way. He shared all the methods and advice he’d been given over a lifetime of fighting and I do mean, FIGHTING depression. From all the adages that well-meaning friends, family and professionals advise: “eat healthy, exercise, journal, pay…

  • Holding my rail…

    “Don’t let go of your rail.” I encouraged last week during a counseling session, to a person who has been enduring emotional abuse for the last 10 years. They have been working so hard on boundaries and I am so proud. As my day wound down, the memories and years I have been giving that…

  • Leaving: saturation, great gratitude and wonder…

    Washington DC/Pennsylvania (Part 7) “How lucky I am to have something that makes saying goodbye so hard.” AA Milne, as heard from Winnie the Pooh. Have you ever been to a place that seeps into your being, because of both the place and the people and the experience with them? THAT was Washington for all of…

  • One last time: the sparkle, white marble and more endless saturation from The Smithsonian, Arlington and Alexandria.

    (Washington, part 6) After our day at the National Cathedral…Nana and Papa went back to the condo and we went back to the Dr. King Memorial. E needed to visit during the day. (To be true, so did I.) How many times have I said, “I’ll never forget,” while writing about Washington DC? (Either too…