Both/And…keeping it real

We can do hard things. Acknowledging both the good and hard in everyday life.


  • Angst, agony, excitement and hope…

    Angst, agony, excitement and hope…

    You can feel the energy building in your body, your head spinning….realize you must find a way to manage it…. Lace us your shoes; you leave your Air Pods home and now listen to each footfall, hoping you will find the answer to the question that is rattling your insides, even though the question itself…

  • Being With….

    (For JKB, EGM and all who need a reminder) Perhaps I have mentioned it before, perhaps not. I am a huge, and I do mean, HUGE, Olympic addict. I credit my parents, with whom I watched the Olympics faithfully as a kid and have continued in my own family. As I was glued to every…

  • Leaves on a stream, Montana and taking deep breaths…

    (For my love). “Shhh….” My love wrapped his arms around me, my heart hammering and breath fighting to get down to my lungs. “Imagine a canoe, gliding through the water, no sound, other than the water of the river. Drops drip off the paddle, look around and just see everything with wonder….” After he’d described…

  • Ink…

    Ink…

    I have a multi-faceted personality, if I can be honest with you. I am all sorts of things: introverted and love when I get to interact with my closest circle or those I find a new connection with; both anxious about the how’s, where’s and what’s that accompany my disability and very comfortable in other…

  • What Disney has taught me about traumatic loss…

    (Disney Part 2.) I have long considered the things I learn from Disney. Some things fun, others silly, still others poignant, which is I think is the biggest draw for most people who return again and again. I know myself well enough to to know as well, that I can find meaning in almost everything,…

  • What we can learn from Ariel, Ursula, shipwrecks, grief and Jesus.

    (Part 1 – Disney series) Can I start very candidly? I hardly know where to start when I think about writing about Disney, Disney movies and how these come together in my day to day…and yet, that’s probably because for me, it all blends together – my interests, my work, family and Jesus (rarely in…

  • Even better than Disney?

    Even better than Disney?

    (a series on ways that for me, Disney, Jesus and therapy all fit together…) I took a deep, and I do mean, DEEP breath…the kind that I can feel all the way through my torso. The kind…that would make Mr. B, my choir teacher, so very proud. The plane was landing, I peered out the small…

  • Longing for bravery in the new year and a few lessons we can learn from Elsa…

    The heaviness he shared felt nothing short of oppressive…a 100 pound weight blanket that paralyzed in every way. He shared all the methods and advice he’d been given over a lifetime of fighting and I do mean, FIGHTING depression. From all the adages that well-meaning friends, family and professionals advise: “eat healthy, exercise, journal, pay…

  • The weary world rejoices

    Candles flicker, faces glow…. O Holy Night. I let my tears spill from my eyes without wiping them away as the Hallelujah swells – both tears of sadness, remembering how it was so hard to sing at the funerals of two beloved grandparents and tears due to the pure holiness of standing in this sanctuary…

  • Holding my rail…

    “Don’t let go of your rail.” I encouraged last week during a counseling session, to a person who has been enduring emotional abuse for the last 10 years. They have been working so hard on boundaries and I am so proud. As my day wound down, the memories and years I have been giving that…